Discovery Call - Diagnosing the Problem

Timing is everything. According to relationship and marriage expert Dr. John Gottman, “Couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy before getting help.” Can you really afford to wait longer than you already have?

Root Causes

This is a special price 1hr coaching session to help diagnose and discover the underlying root causes of your relationship and personal problems.

Most relationship and confidence issues are tied to our childhood experiences with our primary caregivers. If you've not experienced a healthy childhood where you were able to observe and experience both a loving mother and father and a happy husband and wife, you will most likely have an attachment problem.

From my upbringing, I suffered from an avoidant attachment style that took me many years to figure out and then heal within a few months after discovering it. So many of us create a "new normal" in our heads and often ignore the subtle signs until we try to get into an intimate relationship. That's when it rears it's crazy head.

By the end of this session you will have a clear idea of the actual root causes of your current relationship or self-image issues and be provided an outcome oriented summary strategy to help you address those root causes if you so wish.

This session also allows you to see if you would like to continue working with me to implement the strategy provided and if I'm a good fit for the coaching you can expect and if you are a good fit for me in terms of being coachable. Regardless of the decision, you can walk away with a summary of a strategy that you can work on by yourself or with another coach or therapist of your choosing.

You will need to have a good internet connection and be able to communicate live via online video call using Google Meet. You are expected to be on screen in video so that I can also observe your sub-communications.

Once you have booked the session, you will have access to several supplementary resource files as well as a "Measure your current state" document. This document needs to be filled in and emailed back. The current state file will help me determine how urgent your problem is and whether or not I need to prioritise you to the front of the queue in my booking slots.

You will be able to then choose a slot using my Calendly booking schedule.

What can you expect in this session?

The session is all about learning about key moments and points in your past and current experiences that were the triggers and root causes for your current predicament.

It's less about telling me your whole life story and every detail and more about extracting key points in your life story that are important to discovering the underlying issues in a short time. It's essentially a streamlined session, cutting out all the fluff and fat that mainstream therapy wastes a lot of time on.

You'll be asked the most important questions to discover the most important factors surrounding your issues, that may include and not limited to revisiting memories that caused attachment issues, traumas, relationship breakdowns and loss of self-identity.

You won't get any advice but you'll be given objective points and feedback on stats and data related to what we discuss to help you understand why you may have made some of the choices you have up to now.

You'll be asked about your childhood, past relationships, most difficult and painful experiences as well as your most happiest ones. You'll have to be completely honest with yourself and with me so that I can analyse the information you give accurately. It goes without saying, if you can't be fully honest about your past experiences then you may not be suitable for my coaching.

Please note, this session can be very intense as a lot of things are covered and uncovered to get to the root causes.

For the purpose of reviewing sessions, keeping track of progress and keeping evidence of session taking place as well as the interaction during session, the sessions are recorded by audio only with an offline software to help safeguard your identity as much as possible.

Based on client/coach confidentiality agreement, this audio will only be shared with client using WeTransfer, for reviewing the session and making additional notes by the client towards applying what was learned and will NEVER be shared with third-party or made public without the written consent of the client. If the client no longer wishes to continue coaching, the recording will be deleted.

Client testimonials:

"I was going through some very difficult times. I was suffering from anger; I was having relationship problems. I started to notice it, that it was gradually getting worse and then people that were close to me was telling me that I was self-destructive. I started looking for help outside. I went through other services but when I met with Ali, when I contacted him, he was very supportive, he was very understanding to my situation.

On our first meeting I felt so much had come out, he listened to everything, all my problems and where their roots were coming from. My faults as well, my thinking process. Over the period of meeting Ali, he gave me so much material, so much advice on how to perfect myself, how to handle difficult situations. Through the months over the meetings I’ve had with him, his always been there to give me advice on hand and every problem I had he had a solution that worked effectively. It helped me in so many ways, everyone’s realised that I’ve changed as a person now. I recommend using him." ~ Hamza

"I honestly appreciate the advice that I got from you. It helped me so much in building my confidence. There was a time where I felt so low that I wanted to give up and not continue going far in life, such as going to uni and becoming successful. I was feeling so depressed thinking about that person, but talking to you has changed my mind and opened my mind to many things. You motivated me to do what I have to do and be confident in all the choices I make.

Have started to move on from my past and think of the life ahead of me to build myself as a better person. We definitely need more life coaches like you in the world to help us out through our tough times. Ali has made me feel that I can be that happy person I was before and that no one can put me down and stop me from reaching my goals in life. I honestly felt so happy after talking to you and felt like my life has a meaning. Just because someone leaves from your life doesn't mean your life has stopped, it pushes you to achieve more goals out there and opens a lot of opportunities. So thank you so much for your kind support and your time, it really meant a lot to me.”

~ Josef

“Ali made me realise that I hadn't forgiven and moved past the anger I had towards my ex, even after months of separating. That moment in my life was really difficult, I had economic, family and health problems and I felt stuck. I needed to break the circle, but how could I start? I remember very well how he guided me towards understanding meditation in depth and that has made a huge positive impact in my daily routine to heal. He told me exactly how to do it, what kind of sensations I should aim to feel and the benefits. For me this meditation advice has been incredible and has been the most crucial in my positive change.

When I think about my ex now, I feel none of those negative emotions. I feel peace inside. He told me about God and the nature of humans to explain how to fix my relationship with my parents as this was another emotional issue. Another important change Ali inspired in me was to eat healthier as this was part of having a healthy overall self which I've adopted. Ali and I have become close friends over the coaching and I would recommend him to anyone serious about healing from any relationship, emotional or mindset issues.” ~ Pat

“I had some serious girlfriend issues and Ali’s coaching & knowledge of study in human relationships is really mind-blowing. He made it super easy to understand the issues by always providing great examples and counter arguments to my excuses and poor reasoning.

He really knows what he’s doing with his clients and I would happily go back to him again. Some people think he’s expensive but that’s why he’s great at what he does. I would rather pay a little more to get the problem fixed for good than keep going back for top ups with someone who can’t.

He’s as straight as they come with his approach and doesn’t waste time hoping to make one session into loads to get more money out of you. No wonder, he’s got his money back guarantee!”

~ Sandeep

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